When making the decision of who is going to be in your wedding party, it's easy to get carried away. If you have a couple sisters or brothers and are really close to your cousins then your actually one of the lucky ones. Why are you so lucky? Well, when you leave people out of the party and have a large family it is easy to say that your going with a family oriented wedding party.
It is easy to hurt people's feelings by leaving them out of your wedding party. If you have a mix of friends and family, which friends are you going to choose? The hardest part in my opinion is when you live with roommates. Perhaps you only wanted to invite one of your roommates to be a bridesmaid or a groomsmen, but what do you say to the other two?
The bottom line is that it is your wedding !!!
Your wedding party should consist of people who have played a significant role in your or your partners life. Being family and or a friend isn't a good enough reason, so if a person doesn't get invited to join the wedding party, it's not because they are not loved, or loved less.
Why some people wont want to be in your wedding party?
Don't just think that a wedding is expensive for the bride and groom. Being a bridesmaid or a groomsmen is very expensive. On average just the bridesmaid dress will cost them $250.00! That isn't including hair, make-up, shoes, nails, bridal shower present, wedding present etc. Some people just don't have it within their personal budgets to be able to be apart of your event, so don't be offended if anyone turns you down for the brides bitch job, I mean bridesmaid position! ( Not all brides are bitches, they turn into them sometimes, but for real, there not always this way)
Make sure, or at least try, to have everyone is the wedding party get along! No one needs extra tension at such an event.
What if your bridesmaid has a boyfriend?
This doesn't mean you have to also invite him to be in your wedding party, especially if you don't really know him. If any of your bridesmaids feel uncomfortable walking down the aisle with another person, simply have all the members of the wedding party come down the aisle separately!
It is easy to hurt people's feelings by leaving them out of your wedding party. If you have a mix of friends and family, which friends are you going to choose? The hardest part in my opinion is when you live with roommates. Perhaps you only wanted to invite one of your roommates to be a bridesmaid or a groomsmen, but what do you say to the other two?
The bottom line is that it is your wedding !!!
Your wedding party should consist of people who have played a significant role in your or your partners life. Being family and or a friend isn't a good enough reason, so if a person doesn't get invited to join the wedding party, it's not because they are not loved, or loved less.
Why some people wont want to be in your wedding party?
Don't just think that a wedding is expensive for the bride and groom. Being a bridesmaid or a groomsmen is very expensive. On average just the bridesmaid dress will cost them $250.00! That isn't including hair, make-up, shoes, nails, bridal shower present, wedding present etc. Some people just don't have it within their personal budgets to be able to be apart of your event, so don't be offended if anyone turns you down for the brides bitch job, I mean bridesmaid position! ( Not all brides are bitches, they turn into them sometimes, but for real, there not always this way)
Make sure, or at least try, to have everyone is the wedding party get along! No one needs extra tension at such an event.
What if your bridesmaid has a boyfriend?
This doesn't mean you have to also invite him to be in your wedding party, especially if you don't really know him. If any of your bridesmaids feel uncomfortable walking down the aisle with another person, simply have all the members of the wedding party come down the aisle separately!
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